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Paula Schneider's avatar

Thank you for this beautiful piece. My soulmate and best friend was called away two years ago quite suddenly. In the dark days that followed, I journaled everything. I think it helped. But one of the most important things that I journaled was that I had spent my entire adult life loving him and showing him every day how much I loved him, so I sat down in a quiet moment, and wrote down a list of all the ways that I could continue to show him how much I love him, and this was very therapeutic for me. I would review the list often, because I was very forgetful at that time, and I would actively do one or more of the things that I put on the list every day. It was important to me to do one or more things on the list every day without fail. Thank you for telling people that this can be a very therapeutic thing to do as we grope our way through that dark place. I also asked my beloved what I could do to show him how much I love him, and the answer came consistently the same every time I asked. He said, "Just give it all away (referring to the love)."

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Sandra Kay's avatar

This broke my heart and then fixed it, then broke it again. Stunning writing.

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